15-Year-Old Gay Teen Commits Suicide After Month of Blogging About Wanting To

Posted by Kevin Farrell on Oct 17, 2011 in Bad News | 70 comments

Jamie Hubley, may he rest in peace.

The brutal combination of bullying, depression, and being born gay have claimed another life, we are sorry to report. 15-year-old gay teenager Jamie Hubley took his life on Friday after a month of blogging about his plans/need/fight not to.

His last post to his Tumblr blog was tagged suicide note and read:

Im a casualty of love.

Well, Im tired of life really. Its so hard, Im sorry, I cant take it anymore.

First Id like to mention my friends Nancy, Abby, Colleen, jemma, and Kasia

Being sad is sad : /. I’v been like this for way to long. I cant stand school, I cant stand earth, I cant stand society, I cant stand the scars on my arms, I cant fucking stand any fucking thing.

I dont want my parents to think this is their fault either… I love my mom and dad : ) Its just too hard. I dont want to wait 3 more years, this hurts too much. How do you even know It will get better? Its not.

I hit rock fucking bottom, fell through a crack, now im stuck.

My favorite singers were lady gaga , Adele , Katy perry, and Jessie james, Christina aguilara and most of all I think KASIA!!! I LOVED Singing, and she helped me a lot : ) Im not that good at it though :”/, Im going to miss you guys

(well You know who you are, But to the people who didnt like me (many) A big fuck you, Go ride a unicorn. But w/e I love you anyway.)

Remember me as a Unicorn :3 x) MAybe in my next life Il be a flying squirreel

Il fly away.

You can imagine that his last wish to be remembered as a unicorn fills me with a particularly personal anguish.

Jamie’s last month of blog post include numerous photos of his scars from self-cutting, quotes about how ugly and worthless he felt, and screenshots of victims contemplating suicide after being attacked by bullies. Lines like “I hate being the only open gay guy in my school … It f—ing sucks, I really want to end it,” aren’t the exception on Jamie’s blog. They’re the norm.

Jamie somehow went from posting YouTube covers of his favorite songs to posting pictures of the word “LOVE” carved into his flesh, and nobody seemed to notice.

Suicide is the second-leading cause of death for Canadians between the ages of 10 and 24 and disproportionately affects gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender youth.

“From the outside, he looked like the happiest kid. He was always smiling and giving everybody hugs in the halls,” said Steph Wheeler, a close friend who had known Jamie since the pair were in figure skating together as children a decade ago.

But Wheeler, 16, knew the sensitive Grade 10 student was struggling with being out in high school and often felt the sting of verbal bullying. She said all that Jamie wanted was what every teenager wants — somebody to love.

Somehow another gay teenager fell through the cracks even while screaming at the top of his lungs for help online nearly every single day for over a month. This should go without saying, but when someone tags a post “suicide note” – call for help. You can get involved simply by sharing the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline number, 1-800-273-TALK (8255), looking out for friends and loved ones and learning the warning signs for suicide.

And when someone tell you they are unicorn, you take care of them. No questions asked. We’re all in this together.

Rest in peace, Jamie. Our thoughts go out to your family, friends and loved ones.

(via Ottowa Citizen)

http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1604306129 Charles Jackman

I am so saddened by this. It seems like it’s never going to stop. 15 years old, think about that.

Suicide is a very selfish act but one’s psyche must be very tortured to commit it.

I believe there’s a force on the other side, I hope God has him in his arms now.
http://twitter.com/ElectricBlue32 Allison Hoffman

Tears…

And by the way, Jamie, you are beautiful inside and out.
Anonymous

Sorry for the family loss my heart breaks when another child dies senselessly .I speak on behalf of those that cant speak for themeselves This Has Got To Stop !!!
http://www.facebook.com/people/Carmen-Iris-Chavez/631382837 Carmen Iris Chavez

Wow.. This breaks my heart. How many more young sweet
kids do we have to lose to suicide? My heart goes out to his family and loved
ones. I agree with (Roncathers<3) THIS has got to stop! The Time is now to
STAND UP for these kids! Talk your children! Talk to your friends and family!
Discus that bullying is not expectable under any circumstance! Cause were
losing too any wonderful teens cause they feel they don’t have the strength to
go on..

http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1595536755 Chester O Moore

Make sure your own kids know how much they mean to you, and all those around them. We miss that part too often. We won’t ever be able to stop all the bullies all the time, it’s a nice dream, but kids are still gonna be mean. It’s natural, they are developing a social structure and it’s part of life. Sometimes the group is gonna exclude you, but these kids need to know that they are loved, and they are wanted, that there are people who will be crushed if they weren’t in this world and that life gets soooo much better.

http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1579467626 Heather Bradley

This is so freaking sad. I wish I knew what to do to help more. How do you find all of the suicidal teenager blogs so you can try to help? Is there a Google for that?! Seriously…I wanna know.
http://www.facebook.com/people/Carmen-Iris-Chavez/631382837 Carmen Iris Chavez

Theres always hope stay strong<3 xoxo
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000035047164 Gus Anderson

Wake up; people.

Kindness costs nothing….and hate is so expensive.
http://www.facebook.com/michael.stanton.jr Mike Stanton

i am at my breaking point, every time i hear something like this i break down and i start to cry. its not even the fact that he was gay and he took his life, its the point that he was bullied to it. after i get out of the military i know i want to do one of two things, school guidance Councilor, or i want to go and become a major LGBT/anti bullying activist

http://www.facebook.com/hance2 Jenn

I am with you on that one Mike. It seems like no one is doing anything to help these kids, everyone is so cowardly to step up and speak out. Two kids, both under 18 are gone because no one stood up to help.

http://twitter.com/tallicdeth Jason Vajgrt

If only my wife weren’t busy with old people, she could be in a school somewhere, working with teens, trying to help them through this shit…I get so damn tired of reading shit like this!

http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000155872736 Daniel J McEwen

I think school guidance counselor for me as well.
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1595536755 Chester O Moore

I think that the only way we can fix this, and it’s not just a gay problem, is to teach our kids how to connect with others. My generation (I’m only 31, that makes me sound ancient) has always lived with this unspoken terror of strangers, and I think that very much was passed on from my parents. We have segmented ourselves down to the point that we don’t have a community anymore. When was the last time you saw a roving gang of kids playing in a neighborhood? They don’t do it anymore. They don’t connect with each other anymore and I don’t think its any coincidence that they don’t know how to do it as teens, and I think sadly that it’s killing them.

http://www.facebook.com/kennethray.tackett Kenneth Ray Tackett

What does this make…the second child in a month (that is known of) to commit suicide all because of ignorant, closed-minded people??? So sad and uncalled for!
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=21719082 Melissa Kliemann

I’m aware this is going to be controversial, but where were the parents at? I’m not saying it’s their fault, and I feel for their family. But how does a teenager blog daily for a month about wanting to commit suicide without their parents noticing? And if their parents did notice and didn’t get them into therapy, didn’t talk to him and try to help, then what kind of parenting is that? Again, I don’t mean to blame the parents, and I do feel for their loss. I just think these suicides need to be a sign not only to school officials about bullying, but also to parents of teens about suicide risks and how important it is to pay attention to your kids and get them the appropriate help. That is just as important, if not more important, than coming down on bullying.

http://www.facebook.com/people/Erica-Cook/100000628613592 Erica Cook

I understand what you mean, but the hard truth is most 15 year old kids aren’t going to tell their parents about things like this. Many schools don’t address LGBTQ bullying because they think the kids bring it on themselves or deserve it. I want to know about the parents of the bullies and what they did to make their kids think this is acceptable.

http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1311832528 Layla Trumper

It is crazy what type of behavior parents will teach their child without a thought as to whether or not It’s bigoted or extremely hurtful, and in a lot of cases they encourage it. Bullying destroys a lot of lives.
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1595536755 Chester O Moore

I see both of your points, but Melissa nailed it. You are absolutely right that 15 year old teens (especially boys) are not going to tell their parents about things like this, but it’s your job as a parent to be intrusive. The teen is going to hate you for it. If his parents had been monitoring his blog, or his Youtube posts then it’s possible they could have curtailed some of the damage the bullies were doing. No one wants their kid bullied, but a parent that is there for their kid during a period when they are being bullied is a confidant, a friend and a loved one (read exactly what they need most). We can’t put all our focus on bullies, and teachers, and counselors, we need to provide parents with ideas on how to reinforce that troubled kid and how to interact with teachers and administrators to react to the bullies. We have got to get kids to understand that it does get soooooo much better. It all starts with that parent getting into their kids business and asking hard questions.

Anonymous

A parent can be seen as just another bully if they are too intrusive. Doing your best to build a relationship with your teen is important and when that is not successful, some kids kill themselves despite parents best efforts, therapy, support, hospitalization, being the most open minded parents they can be, having supportive extended family. Sometimes depression is a killer and PTSD can be even worse. It’s a combined effort to address/reduce bullycide. No one here hit any final nail on any head. I hope we understand that it is ongoing and complex and will take years to reduce bullycides with open minds that don’t have a need to put blame here, there and everywhere but look at the roots and help make changes that solve problems. That is legislation. Caleb Laieski is trying to help, big time, and his efforts will help get the issues before the legislators that make the decisions. Blaming anyone, meanwhile, doesn’t bring anyone back, and every parent tries the best they can, with what they have, mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically, at the time.
http://pulse.yahoo.com/_I4LNTDCOPIFSBQYQHK5L3RSXTU west max

You are right about everything but one point. On the internet you can be anonymous. Many people have several windows open at one time so a parent may have no idea what their child is doing. He was a happy kid by all accounts. If this was a log that was followed by others, it should have been reported by those followers. They actually saw it. I’m sorry, but if a person is showing suicidal tendencies, it should be reported. If the report is ignored, it should be reported to someone else. There are people who so thrive on the entertainment value of blogs such as this one, they forget there is a real human involved reaching out for help. It’s a self absorbed society.

What about teaching tolerance? If children are exposed to different types of people, they are more accepting of differences. I have taught in schools that included special education, and schools that didn’t. The children who were exposed to the differences were much more accepting and compassionate. Parents need to get off their proverbial high horses and take a look at the children they are raising. It’s the parent of the bully who is at fault for raising and tolerating such awful behavior..

Anonymous

Before you posted something even you questioned, did you ask a parent of a suicidal teen? Parents are victims too. Don’t attempt to simplify a complex issue and point the finger. Way too cliche.

http://www.facebook.com/WizzardVic John Hancock

RIP Jamie, you are now in the arms of the Angels
THIS MUST STOP!!!!!
http://pulse.yahoo.com/_GBTVLMYNIQV6R7UKWDKYCYS5LU LeslieC

It really makes me sick to my stomach to read stories of these kids giving up. Hope this doesnt sound wrong but these kids need to stop taking the bullying and stop just blogging, tweeting or whatever and stand up make some noise so it can be seen and heard. Some said didnt his parents know because he was blogging everyday? Well, lots of parents would have no idea what blogging even is. But if friends and others read it then why wasnt it taken as a cry for help and why did they not step up and do something? I do feel so bad for these kids but there are so many options today that can be utilized. Try to imagine me growing up in the 70.s in a little Texas town of less than 700. Now that was hard and scary. There were NO places for me to go to for anything regarding gayness. You couldnt just blend into the woodwork cause everyone knew everyone. My only option I had or at least thought I had was to act up, quit school and be sent to live with family in a much larger city. In this day and time these kids should be rejoicing with all they have today and how far things have come for them. When people say it will get better that doesnt mean it will happen at that moment. It might take a little while but you have to try some on your own to make it happen. Dont rely on other people to always be there for you cause thats just not the way it is and sometimes you might be by yourself phyisically but there are always people that care and love you and will fight for you if you just let them know in no uncertain terms that there is a problem that needs to be corrected. Sorry for the rambling on but I just sit here and wonder with such sadness what those kids would/could have been or what greatness they might have achieved in their lives if they had just held on.
http://twitter.com/DLactaoen Derek Lactaoen

So tragic. It’s terrible that someone can reach out like that for so long without any of us taking notice; his death further highlights the need for bullying education and awareness on a global scale. My heart goes out to his family.

I do have to say, though, that I disagree that “being born gay” was a contributing factor to his suicide. He may have been bullied and depressed *because* he was gay, but being gay doesn’t make people feel sad, people bullying others makes them feel sad. We can’t blame the victim, nor can we internalize bullying. We can’t attribute suicide to our identities
meh2

i feel like i want to scream. what is wrong with the world?!
http://www.facebook.com/people/Erica-Cook/100000628613592 Erica Cook

I’m about to go hand send a letter to the nearest Catholic Church in my area asking what it will take to get them to stop advocating hate towrds these children. It may do nothing, but I think we should all do it. If enough letters were sent maybe some grass ruts thing will start. Either way I can’t do nothing, my state has nothing set up to help out LGBTQ youth.
http://www.facebook.com/people/Joey-Mitchell/1406675470 Joey Mitchell

I thought Canada was more accepting… Well, honestly, I blame it on the kkri$ters! The only reason people feel bad about being themselves is because of chri$tianity! They label virtually every pleasure in life as a sin and people blindly follow this shit – enough is enough! Down with Chri$tianity!

http://www.facebook.com/ashthedot Ashley Dotson

Excuse me! I’m trans, gay and a Christian. Christianity isn’t a bad thing. Do some Christians use it to channel their hate? Yes. Everyone interprets the word differently, sometimes to justify ones self and actions. That is like saying “Muslims are terrorists” no, only a few extremists were, and they happened to be Muslim. Some people are just awful people, and happen to be “Christians”.

http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1568479111 Mollie Klingler Wiseman

very very well said!!!!
http://www.facebook.com/people/Joey-Mitchell/1406675470 Joey Mitchell

I challenge you to actually read the book you invest so much of your ‘morality’ into, cover-to-cover! You’ll find that you truly aren’t welcome, and things such as this are perfectly all right… But you know what’s right and what’s wrong – we all do. We don’t need a book to tell us that demeaning somebody to the point of suicide is wrong. Yet, the morality of it all is superseded by a book and what that book claims. You don’t need to be a biblical scholar to read the bible, you don’t need to interpret it, just sit down and read it. That’s why it was printed out in mass, in a language people could understand – so everybody could read it and live by it. How about we all follow logic instead of faith and we can maybe have hopes of advancing our society… It’s funny, though! When the Bible was followed to the letter, the world was in a thousand year slum called “The Dark Ages”! The reason there is so much debate as to what’s “right” and “wrong” is because people don’t actually read the book wars are started over. The one’s that actually read the Bible are either atheists or bigots. Some people are terrifying people who claim the Lord works through them and do a lot of things the Lord says not to – Americans love to ignore Jesus! All I’m trying to say is if people actually took the time to read, cover-to-cover, what it is they’re supposed to be believing in, then the truth will become very clear as to what your religion actually stands for in regards to a variety of topics and what’s considered ‘sinful’ – yourself included!

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Anonymous

im really sad because its the same thing i had to go through in school, so when i look back that could of been me. so i really wish you can rewind time because i would talk to him and let him know that i been through the same thing and i could talk to him
http://pulse.yahoo.com/_YUOA3B64DTOY2QA73BCQQTFNCM Tyler

Heartbreaking. Just simply heartbreaking.
meh2

anyone can agree or disagree with me on this, and that’s okay, because everyone’s entitled to their own belief. i don’t know if i believe in heaven or not. but i do believe that when people leave us, that a part of them is still here, and that they are kept here by our memories of them. so while we cannot speak with them and tell them how much they really meant to the world, i think they understand…

Jamey Rodemeyer and Jamie Hubley…I promise to never forget about either of you. you may have left us physically, but i refuse to let your memory die. I will think of you everyday, and wonder…if we knew each other, would we have been friends? i’d like to think so. i’ll also regret, for you two were special and you had a special place on this earth. the people of this cruel world who matter will truly regret your loss, and won’t be so quick to forget about you. rest in peace, because hopefully, you guys are in a better place now.

Anonymous

I hope we can learn from any specifics of their lives and cases, too, and, that t the publicity propels the causes forward. Who knows if we’d have gotten along, hung out, maybe, maybe not, doesn’t matter. If you are into spiritualism, you can talk to em now easier than before. I’d like to think they died for those reasons….to shine a light on bullycide and to help us with evidence for our legislative requests. Heroes. Be patient with society and communities as we shake up beliefs and move cheese all over the place. It is going to be grande! And if you like, enjoy the concepts: the angels, all the Jameys, and all the other supportive energies can be our support!

http://www.facebook.com/cateer Christina A Teer

CANT STOP CRYING…..THIS IS SO TERRIBLE,MAKES MY SELFISH LITTLE PROBLEMS SEEM SO DUMB. MY HEART REALLY GOES OUT TO EVERYONE AND ANYONE WHO GOES THRU THIS HATEFULNESS AND CRUELTY.I LL ALWAYS BE HERE FOR ANYONE WHO NEEDS ME..GOD BLESS//CHRISTINA TEER
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=719085374 Judy Rosen

I hear you Mike! I quit my job and am studying to be a social worker. I am doing my fieldwork at a high school and plan to be involved in anti-bullying activism one way or another in my career. We all have to DO something.
http://twitter.com/Tessybear_29_92 Tess Bastian

I got to that point when I was in high school, but now, I’m glad I made it. My heart goes out to his family and fiends. The world lost another one too soon.
http://www.facebook.com/rjett1 Ronnie Jett

So completely awful and I can believe he’s waaay up there with his Father enjoying all the blessings the after has to offer! You are not a unicorn anymore, not even a flying squirrel like you said however one day this world will get the reality of truth and check there ego at the door Bless you bub, you will be missed.
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http://pulse.yahoo.com/_BAVAQB3XPKD2TDICNYUDSTVKOI Kris

“we can be strong follow that unicorn on the road to love….”
http://pulse.yahoo.com/_BAVAQB3XPKD2TDICNYUDSTVKOI Kris

“we can be strong, follow that unicorn on the road to love…”
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1100404337 Yow-han Lasquite

is he dead?
http://www.facebook.com/karl.pike2 Karl Pike

i totally understand what this kid is going through ,im a student at tn tech in nashville tn my teacher and other classmates have bullied me to death it really hurts ive went to the school and talked to them all they do is make a report right some bullshit down on paper it really hurts to wake up every afternoon and go to that hell hole of a college im gay and proud to be me but here lately ive been down and have been sense i started school there who would ever think id be alone in a college full of adults that treat me like shit because i was born this way

http://profiles.google.com/lmcaldwellhurd Lynn Caldwell-Hurd

Is there an LGBTQ group at your university, or one nearby? There’s one at my university in Kansas (yes, Kansas), and they do such good work. The important thing about groups like that is, they really prove that there are so many people in any given community going through the same things you are, and so many more straight allies than there are bigoted jerks. It’s just that sometimes the jerks are louder than we are. Hang in there, honey.
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1595536755 Chester O Moore

I do not advocate giving into bullies, or placating them. That being said, you are a grown man I assume and there have to be other options for school…the reason I say this is not that I believe that anyone should have to relocate to live their life as they see fit, but rather because as a consumer (yes you are in this case a consumer of education) has the ultimate right to vote with their money and go to another organization. You can also try to convince as many like minded people to leave with you. Sometimes a boycott is an effective tool. There has to be another institution that is gay friendlier in your local area. If your boycott is successful enough it may bring a spotlight onto the institution itself and may jeopardize Federal funding, and put pressure on them to terminate the teacher involved in this incident. Good luck to you Karl…don’t get down about it, get even.

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http://www.facebook.com/people/Steve-Wilson/1313340562 Steve Wilson

Don’t let Jamie be “just another statistic”. WE need to support our youth – NOW! Regardless of who they choose to be. The world needs a wake up call – re-post – it may save a young life ♥ xo
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1311832528 Layla Trumper

It’s so sad to see that even in his suicide note he was trying to be upbeat, like maybe if someone had thrown this kid a rope that it might not have ended this way.
http://www.facebook.com/people/Rj-Gleason/100002957411380 R.j. Gleason

god hates fags

http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1568479111 Mollie Klingler Wiseman

God hates hate. And judgement by those who are not God… I am a straight mother of three, and a believer as well. comments like this break my heart. who are we to judge others? is your sin any better than any other persons?
http://www.facebook.com/people/Desiree-Terrebonne/100002852508750 Desiree Terrebonne

Uhm last I checked, God made all of us; God loves us all, as human beings,we tarnish the greatest creations made by labelling or even worse by some, bullying people they don’t understand. I have to remind my sister often, God creates diversity, NOT DIVISION…
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1595536755 Chester O Moore

Pretty sure that’s up to God to determine and express and not you. Although I will say this…God doesn’t hate any of his creations save one, Lucifer. He may have an issue with some of their choices, but even by your own doctrine it is in no way your place to crusade and punish them. Your behavior is inexcusable.
http://www.facebook.com/mychyl Mychyl Kime

Obvious troll is obvious.

Let’s all move along, shall we? This “person” only exists on this site for attention; give it none, and it will leave.

http://www.facebook.com/people/Sylvia-Vitale/785631801 Sylvia Vitale

It’s a mistake to continually identify gay teens as if that’s all they were. Millions of teens share their feelings, their sadness, their identity struggles. Singling them out as gay being their primary trait exacerbates the problem. It would help them to know they are not alone. Many teens have terrible struggles and are suicidal. It takes a lot of love and babysitting and some times that’s not enough. I don’t always know what the right thing to do is, but I know the wrong thing. And feeding the notion that their struggles are because they are gay is the wrong thing.
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http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1595536755 Chester O Moore

This story resonates with me. I was often bullied as a kid, due to cross country moves that my family made. I talked with a different cadence, had a heavy Louisiana accent in New England, dressed differently and my family was comparatively much poorer than the others around me. Later, after relocating back to Louisiana I met my best friend who is gay. We both lived through some very awful events, but just having him has made my life enormously better. I live and work thousands of miles away from him, and I’m now married and have kids of my own, but he will always be one of the most important people I have ever met. He taught me tolerance, laughter and friendship. I wish everyone could have that, and they are lessons that I will pass on to my children. Thanks Marty…
Anonymous

Teens will do a blog without telling their parents. Without spying software that most teens can get around, it is not always possible to know exactly what they are doing. It is NOT the parents’ fault in any way, shape or form. I have had a suicidal teenager. Some friends went to their parents, who came to us. Those were brave friends whom he was angry with for a time. It’s reality. You live with the kid who doesn’t show all the signs at home. We sought help at each juncture where help was evidently needed. If it is not evident and READERS of the blog are not reaching out to parents, they can not know. Don’t even go there…saying “where are the parents”? That shows that you have no idea what actually happens in an attentive home where a child is suicidal and well-cared for. He is not being picked on at home, so why would he be acting out? You cannot be too intrusive or that is abusive. You will drive them to suicide checking on every little thing they do. It’s a complicated situation. You cannot point at any one cause or any specific person/people as the main reason, except the bullies and schools not legally HAVING to do a better job. That cause, is huge.
Anonymous

Teens will do a blog without telling their parents. Without spying software that most teens can get around, it is not always possible to know exactly what they are doing. It is NOT the parents’ fault in any way, shape or form. I have had a suicidal teenager. Some friends went to their parents, who came to us. Those were brave friends whom he was angry with for a time. It’s reality. You live with the kid who doesn’t show all the signs at home. We sought help at each juncture where help was evidently needed. If it is not evident and READERS of the blog are not reaching out to parents, they can not know. Don’t even go there…saying “where are the parents”? That shows that you have no idea what actually happens in an attentive home where a child is suicidal and well-cared for. He is not being picked on at home, so why would he be acting out? You cannot be too intrusive or that is abusive. You will drive them to suicide checking on every little thing they do. It’s a complicated situation. You cannot point at any one cause or any specific person/people as the main reason, except the bullies and schools not legally HAVING to do a better job. That cause, is huge.
Anonymous

Teens will do a blog without telling their parents. Without spying software that most teens can get around, it is not always possible to know exactly what they are doing. It is NOT the parents’ fault in any way, shape or form. I have had a suicidal teenager. Some friends went to their parents, who came to us. Those were brave friends whom he was angry with for a time. It’s reality. You live with the kid who doesn’t show all the signs at home. We sought help at each juncture where help was evidently needed. If it is not evident and READERS of the blog are not reaching out to parents, they can not know. It’s not controversial, but simply naive, as well as attempts to simplify a complex issue to ask “where are the parents”? That shows that you have no idea what actually happens in an attentive home where a child is suicidal and well-cared for. He is not being picked on at home, so why would he be acting out so obviously suicidal? He is safe and comfy. You cannot, as a parent, be too intrusive or that, too, is abusive. It’s a fine line. You try it. Sounds like you haven’t, and if you have tried parenting, you haven’t had a situation like this. Don’t beat up parents who want their kid back and don’t even think you have the answer or a right to point out a very commonly blamed secondary victim in these bullycides. You will drive a teen to suicide checking on every little thing they do as well. Can you imagine that? Of course, if a parent thought they were a danger to themselves, they would, but, they more than likely did not. To sum it up, it’s a complicated situation. You cannot point at any one cause or any specific person/people as the main reason. I believe one exception to that is that you can point to the student bullies and schools not doing and not legally HAVING to do a better job. That cause, legislation and lack of enforcement of legislation that does exist, is huge, along with discomfort and bias in administrations and communities with LGBTQ people and issues.
http://www.facebook.com/people/Anthony-Rodriguez/100001244463869 Anthony Rodriguez

Reading his last post killed me. It killed me. No one deserves this torment let alone a teenage kid.
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1692357188 Denise Johnson

It is a crime to force so much hate on a person that they should feel like dieing! STOP THIS UGLY PAIN! This young boy died feeling unloved. He wanted others to feel his pain to safe others from this tragedy by showing the world his unbearable pain. I Love you here and in Heaven… so sad you felt so much pain I Love my Gay son and will advocate for others in every way I can!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1692357188 Denise Johnson

Some of us who write GOD hates fags… God does not hate… maybe you do.
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000492549273 Michelle Mushy Nieves

they’re too many stories like this. wonderful people that should be on this world today are being bullied and harassed to the point where they are made to feel like they only way to make it stop it to take their own lives… this is not fair, no matter what a persons sexuality is, gay, lesbian, bi, WE ARE ALL HUMAN. i wish that i could change the world and open peoples minds so they would be able to understand that no matter WHAT we all deserve to be treated EQUALLY
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http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1692357188 Denise Johnson

PRAY HARD AND STRONG FOR OUR GAY FRIENDS AND FAMILY! THEY NEED SUPPORT! DO IT NOW!!!!!!!!!
Phil Yabootz

It’s a f*ck*ng disgrace how in this day and age nobody saw the danger signs and saved this kid. I was his age when ‘outed’ at school, many times I wished I was dead but never thought to take my own life.

Why is teen suicide so prevalent nowadays? In my youth bullying was common, perhaps even more so than today yet suicides unheard of or at least extremely rare. What has society done to make kids so unable to cope with the rigours of modern life?

It is one thing trying to address bullying and its various forms. I’m all for it. Bullies are cowardly arseholes that should be shipped off to boot camp but the problem is far more complex and bullying will never be eradicated completely.

I’m not an expert but surely those that are should be drawing comparisons with the past and coming up with a solution.
http://www.facebook.com/michaelrcooke Michael Cooke

I also feel for this boy’s school mates that are bisexual or gay and didn’t have the courage to befriend him, who may in fact have bullied him. Suicide is destructive in its making murderers of parents, friends and classmates, who now have no second chance to not fail him.

As the Police sang: “You’ll be sorry when I’m dead – all this guilt will be on your head”.
http://www.facebook.com/ajr1021 Andrew Ryder

This is beyond sad. What made me cry, other than the fact that another young person has cut their life short out of hopelessness, is his comment that he hit rock bottom, slipped through a crack and became stuck.

I applaud things like “It Get’s Better,” but we need to be doing so much more for kids that just posting videos to YouTube sending that message. The message is important, but more must be done politically, from an educational standpoint, and to just intervene and help these kids. Videos are great, but more action is clearly needed.
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http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=537726244 Adam Kuglin

Fly well, young unicorn. I’m sorry.
http://www.facebook.com/people/Chris-Hohn/594422125 Chris Hohn

Amazing talen, amazing kid amazing loss of life. You are missed!
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Gillan

lol, sad thing is he might of outgrown that annoying voice, but for now this is fine.
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meh2

you haven’t been forgotten, Jamey. i wish you and other wonderful people like ma copine would fully understand that people are too important to be forgotten…
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1777063321 Hitomi Yamakawa

When I told my parents about this, all of a sudden I started crying. I started remembering about me being bullied, and the people who were bullied, too. ;(.

Oh god, now i’m crying again…
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100002027406940 Gota Emals

sorry to read such this story, it is really hard to believe, may God rest your soul in peace
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