The Bottom Whisperer: I Ran
The Bottom Whisperer is swamped with life and so we’re only answering one hard hitting question this week. Hope you enjoy!
Dear Bottom Whisperer,
I’m a 30-year-old heterosexual man. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 9 months and have a great relationship. I’m a bit of a serial monogamist. I’ve had 2 other long-term relationships with women in the past 4 years. The one thing that is different in this relationship is our sexual relationship. My current girlfriend is only able to achieve orgasm from receptive anal sex. I had never had anal sex with a woman before my girlfriend so it is exciting and new for me. I have also never been with a woman who couldn’t achieve orgasm from regular sex. Is there something up with my girlfriend or can I do something to help her climax from regular sex? Please advise!
Perplexed About This Task Yearning
Thank you for your thoughtful question and being a fan of the column. First thing I want to tackle is this idea of “regular sex”. C’mon here PATTY, why limit yourself to plain Jane, missionary style sex when you have so many wonderful options to choose from. As far as I’m concerned, if there’s something my lover/partner enjoys sexually, I am all about it. I understand that anal sex is new and uncharted territory but don’t you realize that out there right now are a set of bros talking about how hot it was when they banged a chick in the ass?!? It’s naughty, it’s something we’re told gays and dirty girls do and most importantly, it is getting your girlfriend off! So open up the lines of communication with your lady and tell her that this is something you’re new to and maybe you miss vaginal sex. I’m sure she’d be happy to work with you on this, as you should be with her. If you’ve got a good thing going here, don’t let your lady’s love for back door action knock the love train off the tracks. Best of luck!