Gay blog: Get over it

Are Homophobes Just Really Gays in Denial?

The case of Damian Furtch being beaten by a man that claims to be gay has us thinking about the nature of homophobia and what it all means.

David Badash over at The New Civil Rights Movement, points to this recent tweet by Lt. Dan Choi:

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Gay blog: Get over itWith the rash of self-hating, homophobic congressmen that come out as gay only after voting away gay rights, the proof is in the pudding.

Homophobia is rooted in 1) a lack of understanding of someone different than you, and 2) a latent internal homosexuality that an individual is trying to repress, thus result in outward aggression, violence and hatred.

People who hate gay people with a passion have something inside of them that scares them. Whether it is a same-sex desire of their own, or a deep-rooted fear of our community, it is something that tortures them and leads them to act out towards gays.  We try to come at this from a place of compassion and understanding, but it’s hard.

A landmark 1966 study published by the American Psychological Association suggested that:

Homophobia is apparently associated with homosexual arousal that the homophobic individual is either unaware of or denies. Generally, these varied explanations conceive of homophobia as one type of latent homosexuality where persons either are unaware of or deny their homosexual urges. These data are consistent with these notions.

So yes, all of those anti-gay bullies, congressman and hate-mongers? Probably gay. Or at least insanely insecure about their own heterosexuality!

What it comes down to is creating a society that is open and accepting of all stripes of people, and that supports and encourages them in their diversity. Projects like the Stand Up! Against Homophobia campaign are great, because they show the most vulnerable – the youth – that it is ok to stand up for your gay friends and to stand up against bullying.

This will create a more healthy society that will kill homophobia and fear of the Other before it even has a chance to take root.

  • Xtina

    I’m familiar with this study. Allow me to summarize for those who are interested, because it’s great:
    Self-labeled straight men were grouped into two categories: These categories are (essentially) homophobic or not homophobic. This was determined by a questionnaire.
    These men then viewed pornographic videos while attached to a plethysmograph. This device measures the change in the circumference of your penis. So, there’s no hiding your arousal state-the researchers had a quantitative value for each man.
    Results: Straight men who were determined to be homophobic not only became more aroused when watching male on male porn, they were also more likely to deny their arousal by claiming that they were a lot less aroused than the plethysmograph (and their penises) indicated.
    Whereas, straight men who did not rank on the ‘homophobic’ scale typically became less aroused and also more accurately described the level of arousal that they were experiencing.

    Conclusion: In this study (and presumably in general life) homophobic men deny the (really, undeniable) biological state of their bodies when it has to do with homosexuality.

    There’s a lot to say about the power of self-deception here.

  • branni

    Maybe it’s safe to say the the entire WBC crew is gay then? They just made cause we’re more fashionable really. Let’s just be honest here.