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I Tried To Kill Myself After Gay Porn Outed Me

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Kevin Farrell, Unicorn Booty Editor

If Corbin Fishergate doesn’t ring a bell to you, you haven’t been paying attention to your gay porn studio news this month, obviously. These things happen though. Here’s what went down in a nutshell:

All caught up? Fantastic. On Friday, Corbin Fisher’s COO, Brian Dunlap gave an interview to a super NSFW gay porn blog called The Sword; after making fun of our name (Pshh!), they accused us and the bloggers at Queerty of fabricating the glaringly obvious threat to closeted gay teens that outing people via lawsuit posed.

Dunlap told The Sword:

But I challenge that very assumption, based upon a mountain of evidence that is way beyond anything these bloggers have offered. I’d challenge you to read through the posts by UnicornBooty, Queerty et al and find a single instance in which the authors of those pieces introduced anything more than their own assumptions. …We’ve compiled ample evidence to suggest it will not (and I acknowledge that there are no absolute certainties in any situation, really, but I’d say those proposing that idea have as much of an obligation to back up their assumptions as we do.

The writings on the wall are clear to us: Many illegal downloaders are gay teens without credit cards. Blackmailing people into paying you $1900 for crimes they haven’t even been charged with is a crime worse than downloading pirated pornos. With so many real world examples of gay teens harming themselves over the past year it is hardly inconceivable to imagine someone committing suicide or being disowned by their family after being outed via a lawsuit from a bullying gay porn company – these obvious concerns that thousands of us share are for whatever reason unbelievable to Corbin Fisher.

The company insists that we are making these concerns up and they have challenged us to point to a particular example of a gay teen harming himself after being outed by gay porn.

So here I am.

Yup. My name is Kevin Farrell, and when I was twelve years old my parents discovered gay porn on our family computer. They kicked me out that week, and have spoken to me three times since I was twelve. TWELVE. When I was sixteen (and still completely ignorant about deleting my browser history), the same thing happened again while I was living with an Aunt. When she kicked me out, I found myself homeless and living in a park in South Philadelphia for months. It was about this time in my life that I tried to commit suicide.

I’m 27 years old now, and have dedicated myself to helping the gay community, and LGBT teens in particular. My company, Unicorn Booty, connects people with gay-friendly businesses and news. I strive to donate 10% of my income to LGBT nonprofit organizations. I volunteer. I was a Big Brother in college, and I’ve cooked for and managed homeless shelters. I’m hardly a saint, but I am a person who tries to do right by my family, friends, and the LGBT community that has done so much for me.

Since Corbin Fisher insists on seeing proof that their actions can harm at-risk people in the LGBT community before taking the concerns of thousands of people seriously, I have no problem offering them my own story. My parents disowned their twelve year old boy when they saw he had been looking at gay porn online. Had this discovery been paired with a lawsuit against them for my actions, I know the consequences would have been horrendously worse.

I know that gay teens cannot be protected from the myriad ways that can out them: friends, Facebook, browser histories, etc. etc.  I know that gay companies have the right to protect their IP like their straight counterparts. I know that teenagers, just like anyone else, are responsible for their actions – including illegally downloading gay porn. We get that the issue is complex one, but coming out is also an essential and emotional part of the gay identity. It must be dealt with compassionately and thoughtfully – which has not happened in Corbin Fisher’s ham-fisted quest.

To Mr. Dunlap, Mr. Randazza, and the entire team at Corbin Fisher, I’m not making assumptions about the dangerous road your company has set out on. I am living proof that you’re making a horrible mistake. It’s not too late to abandon the course you’re on and address the problem rather than the symptoms. If you don’t want people stealing your content, up your security measures. What about a watermark that has the user’s ID in the corner under your logo, so that people know they will be identified if they share? UB readers have pointed out that very specific technologies exist that will put an end to the problem you are having. A campaign of lawsuits coupled with callous comments and sloppily handled PR is hardly the answer.

Check yourselves. You’re acting like jerks.

  • Good for you! It’s so awesome to see someone call this company out, and other companies for that matter, who don’t respect the humanity of their customers, and make them eat their own words. It wouldn’t be much of an issue for me if they had simply stated that they didn’t know or intend to harm their customers and stopped prosecuting and blackmailing their own clients, but their blatant disregard for the tragic realities that the young gay community face is quite sickening. So kudos to you for being a living example for justice!

  • The way they handled everything was quite imbecilic and did make the company look like jerks. Most people hold there tongues when they know the story will be posted or something but he had no qualms about saying what he…thought? Terrible thoughts. *sigh* It is a terrible thing to be outed. I had the luck of my parents taking it well and not doing anything rash…when I lived my whole life thinking they’d kill me if they ever found out…or disown me for loving who I love. I try to talk to as many people in the community as I can about there stories some of them aren’t as nice as mine…so it’s “laughable” that CF thinks outing someone isn’t all that bad…it is. It’s their choice to stay in their well decorated closet or not, they should have that option.

  • Thanks for sharing! I support your arguments 100%. And agree on the technological part: if they don’t want it pirated, up the security measures. ‘Nuff said.

  • Anonymous

    Kevin, I am so proud of you. You express yourself so well. I knew nothing of the pain that you went through as a kid. It sucks. I only wish that you would have felt comfortable enough and knew me better while growing up. I would have been there for you. I too had to deal with the issues of growing up gay. Although my family was very accepting when I did finally told them, for years I was living a horrible life thinking that I was going to lose everyone and anyone that I loved because of who I was. I guess we should have talked more at the family Christmas party. I love you, Kevin. And I love how involved you are in our community and how well you express yourself in your videos and comments. You have grown to be a strong and wonderful young man. So proud of you <3

  • Anonymous

    I’m starting to think that straight couples should be required to take a test before being permitted to marry, and if they are unprepared to extend unconditional love and support to their children, even if they are gay, even if they murder – they should be denied the ability to marry.

  • Andy Collin Brown

    Kevin, you are so brave. Thank you for telling your story. I know it must have been hard to post this.

  • Anonymous

    Kevin:
    I think you’re amazing. Thank you for sharing your story with us. It’s something you didn’t have to do and incredibly brave. Thank you again.

  • Douglas Naylor

    Wow. I’ve picked up bits and pieces of your story over your online time, but had no idea of the extent of the crap you had to endure. There is something that is part of you that really shows up in how you live. Your compassion toward others even in the face of hostility is very obvious to me, as I was the recipient of it a couple of times during my time in your hood. It left me confused at the time, but while I’d like to think I finally get it, I’m sure there is way more to it than I can figure out. Thank you for sharing your reality with us in a very articulate and deeply passionate (and calm) way. The world is a way better place for having you still be a part of it. We need people like you.

  • Anonymous

    If bullying was enough I have to go through this now, I’m 17, If I had the money I really would have paid them monthly for their services, but I just cant due to the stupid economy, Ive already attempted suicide, and this will push me over the edge.

    I cant admit to this, as well as lie about straight porn, my only parent would hate both, they should stop and just announce to remove all torrents and stop file sharing, at least then its giving people time, and its a much more fairer system for all.

    Good work unicornbooty

  • Alex

    I’m 15 and I don;t know what to do. If i had all that money i would have paid them cuz i can’t deal with this. I jus wish they wud have given us another way to make this stop 🙁 this rly is the worse feeling ever.

  • Sonic

    When I was 14 I had to be driven to the emergency room because I had threatened suicide. I wasn’t outted or anything. I was simply depressed over discovering my sexuality and I thought God didn’t love me and I thought my parents would hate me and I hated myself. So I decided to take my life.

    And that was WITHOUT a lawsuit. I know for a fact that had a lawsuit outted me, I would have made sure that I had gone through with it. That was the darkest time in my life and being outted in that way would have sent me over the edge. And I know many other teens face that point as well and I would hate for any of them to be outted like this.

  • Sonic

    and BTW, March 1st is tomorrow. I know many people who are just discovering all this today. So their “amnesty” offer is over. Their opportunity to “lie” to their parents and say they were looking at straight porn is OVER.

  • Sonic

    You’re 15? Really? According to Corbin Fisher you don’t exist. They doubt any teenagers watch porn without paying for it.

  • Good Job Kevin! So proud of you=) I suprised “M” hasn’t made a comment yet….

  • Well probably “M” will more defensive statements as usual, and this time it would target Kevin..But i have a feeling he won’t do that no more..but who knows.. anything can happen.
    By the way Kevin, I’m glad you created a youtube video. Sharing your side of your story, in my opinion requires a lot of effort and i’m glad you were able to share it. Keep it up, you’re an inspiration 🙂

  • Yeah Marc.. haha after re reading some comment on the last CF post… “M’s” identify has been revealed when he started posting responses w/o the “u’s” and awful grammar. Guess Marc became antsy when the readers and UB saw through his disguise.

  • I bet CF is blaming themselves of why they even hired Randazza in the first place.

  • Adam Kuglin

    Sharing your story is the bravest thing you can do in the face of obvious injustice, Kevin. Thank you for that. Corbin Fisher’s profit margins and intellectual property rights be damned… the lives of gay kids trump CF’s bottom line, and them’s just the facts. There’re ways for CF to control their media without putting gay teenagers’ lives at risk. It’s abhorrent that this sort of behavior is coming from a company ostensibly run by members of our community. People who should know better.

  • Adam Kuglin

    Really? I’m not at all surprised “M” hasn’t made a comment yet. What’s there to say?

  • Sonic

    If it makes you feel any better, the likelihood of you ever being contacted about this is very slim. Unless you live in Southern Florida, Randazza will probably run out of time to get your IP information by the time he gets to your area. I’ve been told ISPs hold on to user’s information for 6 months before dumping it and it takes a few months for people like Randazza to even get the names. So if he files to subpoena the ISPs for South Florida tomorrow, he wont get people’s names until June. Depending on when he(IF he) got your IP, your ISP will likely have already dumped your info.

    Best advice, never download Corbin Fisher videos ever again. And while you’re at it, just don’t torrent anything ever again. If you want free porn, check out the tube sites. Many of them even off Corbin Fisher videos you can watch without any trace of you ever being there.

  • Sonic

    “M”? You mean Marc?

  • Sonic

    Marc and a couple other CF goons are posting on Queerty. The fact that they are actually doing this shows they are very concerned about public opinion and are worried that it is not in their favor right now.

    And they have Randazza to thank for that. If he hadn’t made that “little shits” comment, there wouldn’t be near the controversy

  • Sonic

    btw, if you’ve never seen him, look up Marc Randazza on wikipedia. It’ll show you his picture. He looks like a HUGE douchbag. Even if he wasn’t a scumbag lawyer, if you saw him walking down the street you’d say “omg…douchebag alert!”

  • Sonic

    I love how he had to go back on the “little shits” comment and say “I was speaking out of emotion.” LMAO! YOU’RE THE FUCKING LAWYER!!! You’re the one who is supposed to know when to shut your fucking mouth! He should be telling Corbin Fisher to shut up. Instead it’s the other way around!

  • Hey pal,

    This is heartbreaking to read. Please shoot me an email at tips@unicornbooty.com/. I’d like to talk about if we can help with this. Do NOT hurt yourself because of what this company is doing.

  • John White

    I applaud you for telling your story and for taking a stand. Gay kids have hard enough time making it in this world without “one of our own” turning agaist us in the name of profit.. I for one will boycott anything at all to do with Corbin Fisher….